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Finding a Way: Parenting in Graduate School
and Beyond,
By Noreen O'Connor, Web Editor,
Association of American Colleges & Universities
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Noreen, with her son Daniel and husband Rich, taking a
break from writing to go hiking in the Nevada desert. | |
When my husband, Richard Hancuff, and I, both thirty-something "ABD"
doctoral graduate students in English at George Washington University,
decided we wanted to have a baby, we embarked on a journey that tested
the limits of our endurance and creativity, our program director's
patience, and the traditional definitions of academic success.
Both of us were researching our dissertations and teaching as adjuncts
in multiple universities. Our graduate fellowships had only partially
funded us through our coursework and exams, so my husband had also
taken a demanding full-time job that provided us with health and retirement
benefits, while I was working on a number of freelance projects. We
knew we were extremely busy, but we also knew that we couldn't wait
for years to achieve tenure before we had a baby, nor were we willing
to do so. We will find a way, we said, with optimism.
Our transition to parenthood began successfully. We managed to time
the pregnancy perfectly with the academic calendar so that the baby
would be born in June. During the pregnancy, we worked, freelanced,
taught, and researched. I even took a grant-paid research trip over
spring break. Our schedule allowed us to finish the spring semester
and turn in grades, then paint the baby's room, assemble the new furniture,
and spend the summer adjusting to life with our new son. But we soon
found that the transition to parenthood was not easily compatible
with our former lives as graduate student teachers and researchers.
We had to face the real demands on our time and finances that our
new son brought into our lives.
Soon we had to make some very hard decisions. My husband changed
jobs to work for the university in a full-time staff position that
paid his tuition and part of mine, but did not allow him enough extra
time to teach on an ongoing basis. And I soon realized that my earnings
as an adjunct at Georgetown University would not cover the costs of
daycare for our infant son; I had to give up the teaching job I had
loved. By the time my son was one year old, both of us had almost
completely stopped teaching, a situation we told ourselves was only
temporary.
After more than a year of struggling with the exhausting and immediate
demands of daily family life, we realized that our previous academic
life had become a distant memory. Although our dissertation deadlines
were approaching, we both had schedules that barely allowed us time
to research, write, or even on some days think. Yet, after devoting
years and over $100,000 to our studies, neither of us wanted to seriously
consider giving up on finishing the Ph.D. We needed to find a way.
Student, Worker, Parent
My husband and I are certainly not alone among our peers. Many in
graduate programs are now dealing with the life concerns that have
more typically been associated in academia with the tenure track years--caring
for children as well as aging or ill parents while meeting increasingly
demanding research requirements and deadlines. Research about graduate
student demographics reveals that over recent decades, the population
of Ph.D. recipients and the conditions of graduate study itself have
changed significantly.
According to the Council on Graduate Students, doctoral students
are much older than they were even twenty years ago. The average Ph.D.
student is now thirty-four years old, and more than 30 percent of
all graduate students are now over the age of forty. In addition,
an American graduate student is much more likely than at any time
in the past to be a woman, to be married, and to have dependent children.
Peter D. Syverson's research shows that the "average number of dependents
is two for both master's and doctoral students. Graduate students
with dependents tend to be women, and they are older than graduate
students without dependents."
In addition, the time required to earn a degree has significantly
increased in the past five decades. Cultural anthropologist Cynthia
Gabriel explains, "Not only are graduate students coming to graduate
school at later stages of life, they are also spending more time in
graduate school....In 1954, the national average was four-five years;
in 1972, the national average was six years; today, getting a Ph.D.
averages 7.2 years." The lengthened time, especially pronounced (nine
years) in humanities programs where teaching fellowships are the most
common form of financial support, increases the financial and personal
burdens associated with graduate studies.
While completing graduate studies, many students are also working.
According to research from the Council on Graduate Students, over
75 percent of doctoral students are employed, many within the university
as research assistants, teaching assistants, and adjuncts. However,
most campus workplaces have not changed to adequately accommodate
these new realities of graduate school life. As workers and as parents,
graduate students today have specific needs during the long doctoral
process that have yet to be fully addressed on campuses.
Failing to Welcome a New Student Population
While the demographics of American graduate students have changed
dramatically, many graduate school practices have not. "Universities
increasingly have accepted nontraditional students, including women
and older students, into their graduate programs," says Joan
C. Williams, director of the American University Program on Worklife
Law, "but many institutions simply aren't prepared to
deal with the fact that those students have families." This
can make graduate school an unwelcoming place for students with care-giving
responsibilities.
In some cases, universities barely acknowledge that students have
children. "When I started the doctoral program," one doctoral student
recalls, "I was informed of a welcoming barbecue at the dean's house,
on a Saturday afternoon. I thought, 'How nice!' Then I asked if I
could bring my ten-month-old and was told, 'Well, no.' The reasoning
I was given was that [the dean] had fragile things in his house."
This experience was, says the mother of three, "Not a good way to
start the program."
In addition, some recent changes in doctoral programs have actually
resulted in more obstacles for those with families. To accommodate
the number of students who are now working during the day, most graduate
programs offer the majority of their courses in the evening, a schedule
that can either be a great help or a significant problem for students
with young children. Institutions are faced with real challenges as
they try to accommodate the varied needs of their students.
Evening classes worked very well for Cynthia Pollack, a doctoral
student in education (curriculum theory) at Simon Fraser University.
"At SFU," says Pollack, "faculty and staff offer pretty much every
required course in late afternoon and evenings, usually as one long
time block so that only one weekly trip across the city is
required to attend a particular class." This schedule was ideal for
Pollack, who was able to work around her children's needs to attend
classes.
However, Tracey Perez Koehlmoos, a doctoral student and mother of
three completing her doctorate in public health at the University
of South Florida, points out that night classes don't work for everyone.
"If you are trying to achieve the balance between going to school
and parenting your children, night school seems like an ideal
choice." However, these hours present real difficulties for many parents.
"My university does have evening childcare hours, but I don't think
that it is realistic to put children in childcare three nights a week
from 5:00-9:30. Also, the price for three kids was over $13 per hour."
In particular, parents who are raising their children alone or who
have spouses that travel have concerns about evening-only class schedules.
"My classes were almost all held at night," says Gisela Berger, a
mother of twin toddlers completing her dissertation in counselor education.
"If I had had children at the time, I would not have been able to
make the classes due to my husband's work schedule."
But for many afternoon classes present almost insurmountable difficulties.
"I almost dropped out of my program," says Koehlmoos, "when a mandatory
class was offered from 2:00-6:00 p.m., which meant finding someone
to pick the little one up at preschool at 1 p.m. and the older boys
up at elementary school at 2:15, do homework with the boys, and cook
dinner. No one wanted that job because it was only one day a
week! I ended up taking the gracious offer of an elderly couple at
my gym--but paying the wife $10 an hour for her services." The best
solution, it seems, is to offer classes during a range of times instead
of only during the day or only in the evening. This way, students
can find a schedule to accommodate the unique needs of their families.
For many cash-strapped doctoral student parents, finding flexible,
affordable childcare to cover the hours required for graduate study
also requires great creativity and endurance. "Child care has to be
the biggest issue," says Diana Laulainen-Schein, who will graduate
from the University of Minnesota-Twin Cities at the end of the month
with a Ph.D. in history. "Just recently, I had to explain to someone
why I was turning down a teaching position. The salary was $3,000
for a semester, which would not have covered my childcare expenses
for just two children even just for the time I would be required to
be at school lecturing."
Koehlmoos and Laulainen-Schein are not alone, as evidenced by many
graduate student union campaigns that have drawn attention to dependent
health care and childcare demands. For example, graduate student teaching
assistants bargaining for union contracts with the University of Michigan-Ann
Arbor asked the university to build a separate childcare center for
graduate students and to offer free childcare. Ultimately, the students
reached a contract in 2002 in which the university increased the subsidies
given to some graduate students to pay for childcare to $1,700 per
semester for a first child and to $850 each for second and third children.
The High Cost for Women in Academia
Not surprisingly, researchers find that the current campus climate
disproportionately affects women with young children. Overall, women
graduate students are more likely to drop out of graduate programs
than their male counterparts with similar undergraduate GPAs and GRE
scores, and those who do complete their degree are less likely to
advance to the rank of tenured professor.
As Mary Ann Mason and Marc Goulden argue, "We have done a better
job of opening up the competition to women than we have of leveling
the playing field. Merely opening up graduate education is not enough
to assure equal opportunity in the long run for those women who choose
to have children." Academic women, they contend, need better
counseling and support as graduate students to ensure that they can
effectively compete with their male counterparts. Institutions must
address the unique issues that the new population of women graduate
students face while completing degrees and moving into the job market
in academia.
"I feel that trying to finish the Ph.D. and deal with spouses/partners
and children all at the same time is much harder on women than on
men," says Lyn Blanchfield, who earned her Ph.D. in history from Binghamton
University, SUNY in January. "While I don't deny that some men feel
the same kind of guilt that I did last semester, I think there is
a lot more pressure on women to 'do it all.' We seem to pay a higher
price for wanting both a career and a family and then trying to pursue
our dreams. In addition, as many of us here have said, our biological
clocks are ticking and we simply must take time off to have
a child or children. I had my son at thirty-four, my second 'child'--the
dissertation--was 'delivered' when I was thirty-eight and now we want
another child and I am now thirty-nine. It is now or never. While
I am glad that I 'took off' that year, I am sure there were people
at my grad school who wondered what I was doing in my 'spare' time."
Even when they do complete their degrees, women with young children
face significant barriers to crafting careers in academia. Women with
families are more likely to be found in the non-tenured second tier
of academic faculties, working as lecturers and adjuncts. But working
in these positions has serious costs. Part-time and nontenured faculty
earn lower wages, receive fewer or no benefits, and have fewer opportunities
for advancement than full-time workers, even when they have similar
backgrounds and work experience. Because of the rigid "up or out"
policies of the tenure track, Mason and Goulden observe, a substantial
number of women eventually leave academia altogether.
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